Recently I have been working through a course which focuses on Positive Psychology. This is a movement which seems to be making its way through our education system… as a teacher we sometimes sigh at hearing these words and in our heads we simply think, what now, how long will this last…
Well when presented with the course and a small snippet of what it contained it actually sounded like something I could relate to and in fact already find myself doing.
I am now completing the second module. It has been personally rewarding and I wanted to share with you one of the things that I have had to do and now continue to do that has resonated with me.
So often when we get to work, or get home, or even pick up the kids, but mostly before we go to sleep we always turn over in our minds what happened in the day. We ask ourselves questions like;
- What did we not get done?
- What went wrong?
- What could we have done better?
- What does this mean I have to add to my list tomorrow?
- Was I a good parent? Did i respond badly to a conversation? Did I yell to loud?
- Why did I argue with my husband? I am not going to be the one to apologize or reach out? I wasn’t wrong….
- Should I have done this or that..
These questions and the list of them could go on forever, however, I want you to try something new. I do mean actually give it a go. It will be fun! I cannot guarantee it will be easy or give you the desired responses straight away but I will tell you it makes a difference to your day, how you feel and then of course this flows onto your well being the following day.
Before you go to sleep – ask yourself what went well today? Just that…. What went well…
For a week each night write down three things, yes thats all, three things that went well. Do this for a week and see how you feel. Do it with your children, your husband and see what happens. If you don’t feel like writing them down just have the conversation. It can be over dinner, in a movie break or even in the car on the way home. However, it’s best just before bed!
I have been doing this and I must admit when I asked my husband the following evening, in true male fashion he said well my three things would be;
1. I woke up
2. I breathed in
3. I breathed out…
I had to take a breath myself and go no lets think about three things that went well….
We did laugh – which is a good thing and became one of his first things that went well….
Change is not easy in itself, but to change how we think is even harder!
Let me give you a few of my examples:
Three things that went well:
- My soda stream has not exploded on me again, phew!
- My daughter was amazing in her second debate this week and their team won! Well done to a group of Year 7 girls!
- I walked along the beach and watched my two puppies launch themselves through the water and then role in the sand.
It doesn’t have to be something big, small or have meaning to anyone else but yourself. Give it a go and see how it makes you feel, let me know what it does or even share some of your blessings.
“Be Brave, Be Bold, Be all you can be!”
(I dare you)