Acknowledging loss

How does one acknowledge loss? It’s something I often ask myself.

Truly it’s hard to accept and even more to talk about.

I imagine it just like the dripping tap, shower or running toilet. You know it’s happening but often it you drown it out, or even more so try to forget it.

However, there comes a time when it’s all to much. The drip is to much to handle and you have to do something about it.

Loss is just like that.

A hard day at work, being short, well shorter than normal with the students, your colleagues, and you know full well what is bubbling underneath. However, you tune it out. It’s not the right time, not now, not ever. Not here, not now, always the fail safe approach.

Loss doesn’t work that way. It creeps up on you in the most unexpected ways and at the most unexpected times.

Those quiet moments build up, the empty bed, the silent line on the other end of the phone.

There is no answer to dealing with loss. We all do it in our own way. It’s an interesting thought, dealing with loss. Losing someone you love and having to move forward. I prefer saying moving forward than moving on because who truly moves on?

It’s not moving on we do, more moving forward. Learning a new norm, a new way of coping, hiding and being.

Loss is not something we can hide from, trust me. It’s best to acknowledge it, give it it’s time and know that there will be many more times.

Loss is not easy, no one has ever said that. It’s being able to set aside time to ‘be’.